Boundary

Our brain is a brilliant yet biased machine. It constantly works to make sense of the world around us, especially in moments of emotional ambiguity. When someone gives us a hint be it a look, a gesture, a word we don’t just see it as it is. We run it through the filter of our desires, expectations, and personal narratives. If we’re hoping for love, we might decode a simple smile as affection. If we’re craving connection, even silence can seem like an invitation.

We interpret hints not based on what they meant, but on what we want them to mean. We prioritize our emotional benefit, our hope for validation, affection, or closeness. And in doing so, we often convince ourselves of truths that were never spoken.

But reality is rarely that linear. Every gesture, every word, holds the potential for multiple interpretations. What we see as love might just be kindness. What we think is special might be ordinary for them. Perception is not proof.

That’s why boundaries are essential not just with others, but within ourselves. We need to create a pause between observation and interpretation. When we see a hint, we should learn to ask: Could this mean something else? Could I be projecting? Instead of jumping to conclusions, we must entertain multiple perspectives.

Boundaries protect us from heartbreak born out of illusion. They remind us to wait, to observe more, to clarify. In a world where minds and hearts are so easily misread, setting boundaries is not just wise it’s necessary.